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2009 Theme: Willing 2 Win!!Posted on 30/12/2008 at 11:58 in Theme of the year - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkWe proudly present our 2009 theme: Willing to Win or more populary: WILLING -2-WIN In Dutch: Willen willen 2008 Theme: Open de bron en pluk de vruchtenPosted on 31/12/2007 at 10:30 in Theme of the year - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkNa de focus van 2007 wordt het nu tijd om de vruchten te gaan plukken van deze jaren van voorbereiding. Het thema voor 2008:
Open de bron en pluk de vruchten
Latijn: Patefacio fons et messis pomum
Engels: Open the well and harvest the fruits Three steps out of team turbulence: credibility, surrender & sustainabilityPosted on 10/9/2007 at 21:14 - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkA peaceful world is not a World without conflicts. Conflicts are an essential part of life. Where life is conflicts will occur. Bernard V.A. Röling (1906 - 1985) Then suddenly it is quiet. While some people leaves the room, emotions are there for the ones that are left. This doesn’t feel good. How could they ever decide this? Can we change something to the situation. I don’t think I want to be in this team anymore! Suddenly we realise our team is in turbulence. Working in teams leaves us with situations were goals and values of individuals can be stepped on. How can we manage conflict situations in teams especially in the heat of the moment. Is there a way to recover from our first conflict-reflex. Apart from functional conflict resolution methods three steps must be considered in order to manage team turbulence:
Step 1: Is our image in line with reality? Your own independent thinking is not put aside when joining a team. The team needs original critical people to keep working effectively. Just as joining the team was a rational decision, reconciliation is also an act of reason. The team spirit will and should not take away individual thinking. Joining the team was an act of free will, or wasn't it? Were you forced into co-operation? Reconcile this beginning towards were you are now. Team work and all it turbulence is based on facts, facts in relations between people. What is our common goal? What is your and my responsibility and how do we communicate? The question here is really: do we believe in the team we are in? Do we still support the choice to join it in the first place? The key-question here is: How is our CREDIBILITY with ourselves and our team? Step 2: Are we touched by our team? When we work with people our feelings are touched. Are we proud to work with them? Does it give us pleasure? Our feelings give us all the information we need. Do we hear, see of feel it thou? As soon as we are touched by our team our decision making system should be geared toward a YES to the team reconciliation: Do I still want to be part of this team? And am I willing to surrender to this team? It is our free will that gives us the opportunity to say yes to the team again. In other words: Do we jump into it again? This is a conscious decision and will warp us into the next phase of reconciliation. Key-question step two: Do I SURRENDER myself and my team to this process of reconciliaten? Our courage to jump! Step 3: Finding our way into chaos After we have jumped into the reconciliation process, we will have to work out the issue that is at stake. This third step should create huge amounts of energy. We need to canalize this explosive power in order to avoid chaos. Creativity is the process to produce durability to a team situation. Key-question to step three: Can we find SUSTAINABILITY within the team? Five aspects of behaviourPosted on 18/8/2007 at 21:59 in Behavioral change - 0 Comments - Post Comment - Link'It is easy to become angry. But to be angry to the right person, at the right level, for the good reason and in the most approriate way that is the hard thing to do.' (Aristotle form the Etica Nicomachea)
This morning a mouse click deleted a message on which I’d been working for an hour and turned my mood into a tantrum. There wasn’t even an ‘undo’ button in the mail editor. How many times had this occurred to me? Several times! Had I learned to use another mail editor? Certainly not! Again this situation proves one of the vital rules in life: in our thinking we know that it is going to happen. We will start doing things we know will fail. If this happens our emotions take over and our behaviour is no longer controlled by our free will but by our instincts and reflexes.
Let us consider five aspects to this: behaviour, emotions, decision making, consciousness, and time. 1 Behaviour 'The only thing we can do between birth and death is behave’. William Glasser (1998) introduced the concept of Total behaviour as a holistic view on human beings. Our total behaviour consists of acting, thinking, feeling and our physiology. Under common situations they all work together real fine. Our ‘systems’ regulates it selves and we get along with people and situations. 2 Emotions Emotions are our key-decision makers. They move us forwards (e-motion) to people and situations that we like or we have to be with in order to pursue our goals (Goleman, 1996). Basically we have only two sorts of emotions: positive and negative(!). Do I feel good or bad about this? This is precisely why we need emotions in our lives and why we – by definition - can not control them. Our aim is to control our total behaviour. Emotions are just important signals from our body that through rational thinking, instincts and reflexes ‘moves’ forwards. We can talk about emotions AND it is never the real thing. We can feel angry or be very happy, it remains our private feeling that we have to transfer to other people with our body and language. 3 Decision making All we can really do with our emotions is to use them to guide our decisions. Sometimes - most of the times - our body has already taken the decision for us. We walk away, our face tells the other person how we feel while we are still trying to find out what is really happening. Still emotions ask for decision making. It is being in a situation were reality no longer represents our image. We have to do something about this. Decision is not a rational process in it selves. We often find ourselves thorn between head and heart. Our intuition is really the emotion that makes us feel right or wrong about something in our life. 4 Consciousness In order to be aware of our behaviour we have the ability to be consciousness about ourselves. That is, to observe, feel and think of ourselves in relation to the situation and people that we have been with, are still in or will be in the future. Consciousness was an invention of early psychologists and philologists and can be best explained with what has become popularly known as the theory of the iceberg. It says that our behaviour is largely subconscious to ourselves and others. Our influence towards others is strong in both realms. Enlarging our awareness can help us become more effective influencers. 5 Time Time is a funny thing. The past is gone, the future lays before us and the present is a split moment that is history by the time we’ve said the word. On the other hand; time ties our life together. Without the notion of time we would not consider ourselves in relationship to our past and future. It could open up endless possibilities without the ability to set goals or make plans to accomplish them. Time is an important issue in relationships with others. People depend on us, and this dependence is time related. We agree to meet or to deliver something in time. Our trust in others is build on time and makes the future more predicable. Therefore we need time, as a friend and an enemy. Readings:
Choice Theory (1998) by William Glasser, New York: HarperPerennial.
Emotional Intelligence (1996) by Daniel Goleman, Olympus. Essentials of Choice Theory (book by William Glasser, 1998)Posted on 23/7/2007 at 11:07 in Behavioral change - 0 Comments - Post Comment - Link(Summary of chapter 13 – Redefining our personal freedom) Axiom’s of Choice theory 1 The only person who can influence your behavior is yourself 2 All we can get from others is information, what we do with it is our own choice 3 All long lasting psychological problems are relationships problems 4 The problems in Relationships is always part of our present life’s 5 Future orientedness What happened in the past that was painful has a great deal to do with what we are today but revisiting this painful past can contribute little or nothing to what we need to do now: improve an important present relationship today. 6 We are driven by five generic needs 1. Survival 2. Love & belonging 3. Power 4. Freedom 5. Fun These needs can be belayed but not be denied. 7 We can satisfy these needs by satisfying a picture/s of our quality worlds All we know is what we choose to put in our quality world is most important. If we put pictures in our quality worlds that we can not satisfy we are giving up freedom (FILTER =/= Reality) 8 All we can do from birth to death is behave Al behavior is total behavior. It made up of four separate components: Acting – thinking – feeling – physiology 9 All total behavior is designated by words These words are verbs / infinitives / gerunds named by the component that is most recognizable. Example: 'I’m choosing to depress - I’m depressing' Instead of … 'I’m suffering from depression or I’m depressed' 10 All behavior is chosen We have only direct control on our acting and thinking components. However we can control our feeling & physiology indirectly by how we choose to act and think It is not easy to change action & thoughts but it is all we can do. If we succeed in coming up with more satisfying actions and thoughts we gain a lot of personal freedom in de process. About creativity and thinkingPosted on 16/6/2007 at 19:28 in Learning - 0 Comments - Post Comment - Link“The soul never thinks without an image.” To be creative, people need to be able to play, take risks, make mistakes and discoveries without fear of criticism or ridicule. "We enjoy being in nature because is it does not judge us." Friedrich Nietzsche German poet and philosof (1844-1900)
On unity and judgementPosted on 21/5/2007 at 19:14 in Positive Psychology - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkWhy do people seem to judge themselves or others? Is it neccesary to do so? We ask ourselves the question: Am I a better or lesser person than others? The answer most of the time is: Yes, you are... different (!) Consequently setting the other person apart from yourself. STOP!!! It's funny ain't it. When people die, we have a hard time talking bad about them. The funeral seems to be the only place where positiveness is brought up automatically! We die, and everything we done becomes positive, at least in the eyes of others. Is it the fear to condem ourselves by refraining from final judgement? Or is this thought to heavy for you? THINK POSITIVELY during your life! Others might like it. Bless them en give good words. As mother Theresa said: Peace starts with a smile and is the beginning of love. So think of unity in stead of setting apart from the other: Stop judging! Seven principles of Action Learning by Reg RevansPosted on 27/4/2007 at 11:24 in Learning - 0 Comments - Post Comment - Link(From the book Action learning in the workplace, 1998). Principle 1: Learning is part of work Principle 2: Learning is doing Principle 3: Learning is re-inforced by taking risks Principle 4. Learning is rooted in our free will and taking responsibility for our own learning process Principle 5. Learning implies the right (learning)questions Principle 6. Learning is a groupprocess: from and with each other Principle 7. Learning requires selfreflection and feedback 2007 Theme: Choose 4 FocusPosted on 15/12/2006 at 01:23 in Theme of the year - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkThis 2007 theme is special: Think twise!
Choose 4 Focus
Choose what you're going to do: focus Focus on choosing... Get it? Conflict in a non-profit organisation: How tot inspire people?Posted on 30/6/2006 at 16:05 - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkJust returned from an evening with a gathering of people that were in some kind of a crisis.
Althought friendship and serving others was the most important reason of existence for the group, the principles that resulted from this vision and mission were multi-interpretable. Is attending the weekly meeting voluntary or ...? How about your own contribution to the group? Can inspiration be replaced by money?
It showed that openess and respect for each others viewpoints were not present. Unfortunetly there was limited action or concrete incentive to act from the board. So not surprisingly when a clear perspective on the future is abundant, people start to and ponder...
The new direction that was brought will have its effect. Happiness tipsPosted on 16/4/2006 at 10:08 in Positive Psychology - 0 Comments - Post Comment - Link
SOURCE: Tal D. Ben-Shahar - go to original source website The truth about behavioral trainingPosted on 18/3/2006 at 01:42 in Training - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkWhat's it all about that behavioural training stuff? When we go to the core of behaviour and the effect it has on other people it is really down to the essentials: 1 It starts of with consciousness about our behaviour. When we’re not aware of our influence on others, ‘it’ (?) will just happen to us, without ever knowing the beginning our the end. Training is making us conscious about our behaviour. Awakening up from that organisational sleep, that automatic pilot that takes us through the day. Looking in the mirror and finding out that it is only me that is making my mirror image. We can only wish that the people we are working and living with have the same clear (?) view on ourselves as we have. How can we make ourselves conscious of our behaviour? 2 It all about details: Not our character is determining our conduct, it is the repertoire of behavioural scripts that make you act the way you do in certain situations. The details that you have mastered will make the difference between success and failure. Yes, some of the traits in your personality will make it easier (or difficult) to act out. This psychological concept of personality (yes, somebody invented it) can never be a justification of your behaviour. Character is really a stabilised yelly pudding that is made explicit through self-reported surveys and questionnaires or thorough observation. Should we surrender to such a concept? Stop living your personality! It will help to understand yourself and others, but that’s really all it can do for you. Which detail should you change to become a better version of yourselves? 3 It is all about symbols and rites. We become symbols by acting out time after time in the consciousness of others. Until we become what they think we are… Until we are predictable and stable… Until we even ourselves think that nothing can be changed anymore… Well, lady’s and gentlemen that is not the case. Yes, we live by symbols and rites (stopping at a red traffic light will extend our life enormously), it is the conscious choosing and deploying from our repertoire that will give us the image that other people have. So take charge of your responsibility to determine that image so that you may become a symbol of success. What symbol do you really want to become? So, back to basics: conscious consciousness and our success details becoming the symbol we want to be.
New words for the Capital Letters Word List (CLWL)Posted on 6/3/2006 at 10:31 in Capital Words - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkWithin Teamintervention, it's a tradition to find words that have a special, valuable meaning to us. Some new words popped up to my mind:
Please add your Capital Words in your comments. Your Welcome
Which words does your team write with Capitals? Find some more in the category link above! Today's work: conflict within an advisory boardPosted on 19/12/2005 at 07:51 - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkAfter twenty minutes we came to a clear understanding. The conflict did not exist! Mis-communciation had let to pre-set positions that couldn't be held within this meeting. So over and out. We agreed that we could finish our discussion and go on with our work. Theme for 2006Posted on 12/12/2005 at 22:49 in Theme of the year - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkWith a successfull 2005 theme in mind ('Trust in ourselves') we've the power and strength to bring out the best in us and others. So we consider
Give and let others enjoy your talents
to be our general theme for 2006. Enjoy, and let every day reap the fruits of the talents you've got.
Translation: Latin: Abundabit Autem Talenta Donationem English: Use the talents and strength that have been given to you in abundance Dutch: Geef overvloedig van de talenten die je gekregen hebt
Suggestion by HW: Latin: Ingenium acceptum largire English: Enrich others with the intellect that you've got Dutch: Geef rijkelijke van je ontvangen verstand! Words in Capital LettersPosted on 11/9/2005 at 10:22 in Capital Words - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkAs you may have noticed on this weblog, some words are writen in capital letters. This is not a flaw. We've concidered words we use in everyday life that are important to us. They hit right into our key values. Here's a list:
Look for other words in the category Capital Letters Word List: select category Capital Words Our Values & PrincplesPosted on 16/8/2005 at 10:04 in Vision - Mission - Values - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkOur filosophy is value driven. So... here they are: our values & principles. Please give us feedback if you like the way they work together with you.
Our vision & MissionPosted on 25/5/2005 at 10:11 in Vision - Mission - Values - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkClear for all, transparant and motivating. A goal to reach. Here they are:
Theme for 2005Posted on 4/12/2004 at 10:47 in Theme of the year - 0 Comments - Post Comment - Link
After carefull concideration we've declared:
Fiducia Sui Omnia Vincit Trust in yourself makes everything possible
to be our 2005 general theme.
Lots of Succes in what you do and good Health and Love for the next year.
Never to old to learnPosted on 23/8/2003 at 16:57 in Learning - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkThis week I've been wondering: Are we never to old to learn?
The answer is definitely: No, a positive No, that is to say!
Saying Yes to learning is like saying Yes to the new, to the better, to the improved, to the solution and consequently saying No to past time regrets, sorrow, anger and other hard feld emotions.
This week was a confrontation with old knowledge and skills that could not cope with the obvious role of being a trainer / interventionist. It feld like all those years in college and university had been obsolete. Opening up my learning capabilities helped me to move to the next level.
After all who was I fighting the most?... It was me, myself and I. Isn't that case with all our endeavours in life? Letting in others peoples experiences in our imagination will help us to first change ourselves and than work on better solution for our team.
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