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Not equal to now in the past
05:25, 22/9/2008
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Not equal to now in the past, is not equal to the future now A lot
Some psychologists find, a lot of often feel unhappy in the heart not because they are being tormented by anything at this moment through studying, what kind of illness it is not them to have, but they are reviewing some thing felt and felt blue by them in the past, or unstable in the thing happening in the future in intension and mood caused, among them thing these pass by several years or thing that would not take place at all already perhaps, but they have been feeling blue for these all the time.
Think about that feels laughable, it is also a human nature. Give no cause for much criticism, people one emotional animal, will consider, happen once and want what happened in heart, too just because the mankind often considers these things, so our all the time living unhappiness, alive and uneasy, because we have not been understanding a question all the time: Not equal to now in the past, was not equal to future either now, just passed by in the past, now even if now, it will be future in the future, there is a relation between the three, but not the absolute relation of inheriting.
One live in the world, it does something to be can not plain sailing, and some occasion appear issue a bit always in some time, or some setbacks appear, some people will be scared by these little setbacks, and some people will " is once bitten by a snake, one shies at a coiled rope for the next ten years " ,Bring the shade that failed in the past into the job next time, can not get rid of. Some people say this is lessons of remembering last time, so as to not make next time present such a mistake again, but we believe some things are not to say that remember it or benefit us, some thing to say, forget it, can make the same mistake next time.
And considering the future thing makes oneself confused and worried like meeting trouble halfway to some people, this is totally unnecessary too, at first, this future thing is intangible, can happen uncertain, take place, even if that kind of situation you think maybe even, the world is fast changing, any situation may take place, moreover, you can't think at all what result appear in such a repeated thinking, all in vain in the end, it would be better not to think of it, crossing the good every one well is the most important now.
Once there was a honorific Buddhist monk, when he was difficult to be most most helpless, mother who he loved most had passed away, this is undoubtedly a heavy blow to him in distress, but mother produce that day not burying in him, the honorific Buddhist monk remain to see off mother smilingly, then one's own ruined cabin of trend glad. The neighbours all thought he is crazy, can find later, he was not merely not crazy, spirit is very good instead.
As soon as the neighbour feels puzzled, the neighbour ask this honorific Buddhist monk: "You have lost the last relative, why you are still so glad, do not you know this is a kind of unfilial act to your mother? "
The honorific Buddhist monk says disapprovingly: "My mother had already passed away, no matter what kind of agony I am, she herself will not come back to life either, that since in that case, I as painful also, the past has already gone over, why involve the past thing till now. Moreover, our mother loves me very much, if she knew I am because of her so in pain, she will certainly be can agreed, I only happy life, could express I to I filial piety of mother, so I will not go to choose painful life, but choose to face future life with very good psychology, so maybe I will have good life in future.
Does not appear as expected this honorific Buddhist monk speaks, this is because of his so optimistic life, the original trouble is cleared off, but his all the time happy life.
This story has explained a human common fault, because the mankind has too much putting down, for example can't put down the love, can't put down the kindred, can't put down face, even can not put down position and reputation. So the mankind is alive and very tired, alive and very arduous, we always take the thing in the past to heart, always want what happened calculate many, but gainless finally. If you want to become one can take get up can set free too put people, must have one kind psychology very: The ship has no mark to pass water, the bird flies and does not have a picture taken as a memento. All success, failure, gain and loss will not cause the fluctuation of the mental state, that is real reaching a kind of unrestrained great free and easy intelligence.
Relent everything ever taking place in magnanimous farewell, the calm one goes to face the future that can't foresee, and that success, failure, gain and loss that can't be determined, could be detached in this way, could seem generous. We are here " Don't cry for the milk that is knocked over " While,but also it it is learn to want " whether it worry about for orbit that the sun rise of tomorrow " . This and speaking in intelligence of Taoist school " Do nothing " It is the same reason.
Note:
The method to encourage oneself:
1,Read celebrity's biography. The frequent biography which reads some celebrities, especially the biography of the celebrity that you like, you will find you can draw it to the strength that you need from that celebrity's body, as the motive force succeeding oneself.
2,Make the thing that oneself is afraid of doing. This kind of people is generally so-called persons who extremely lacks self-confidence, the purpose is to get a chance to succeed from it, thus increase one's own self-confidence.
3,Accumulate and win it by a narrow margin in order to win completely. Each small victory is nothing to its itself, but can accumulate these small victories, by regular hour, it is a big victory.
4,Give another chance to oneself. To err is human, cross but can change, the good greatest here. Everybody has it while making mistakes, so long as can change, it is good, but a chance to correct one's mistakes of oneself that you must give, is only a fair act to oneself like this.
5,Give and fail and find out the appropriate reason. The thing that people fear most is that there is not failure of the reason at all, even if fail, must find out one and some reasons too, this does not conceal one's own problem, but find one's own psychology a comfort, it is in this way unlikely to lose one's own self-confidence too.
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